The Misuse of Empathy
I have been talking about empathy and its connection to trauma on my podcast recently. It is a connection that took me a long time to make, and once I did, I was able to see my own relationships a lot more clearly. I had been seeing through the eyes of an empath who was using hypervigilance to keep myself safe, a maladaptive strategy from surviving trauma. I would use my super-empathy skills to scan the room for pain, and then I would hone in on that pain and try and fix, soo